I woke up on the hard tiled floor, afraid. All my possessions were outside on the balcony. I didn’t remember anything from the night before. I wondered how I had got back to my room. I thought I was going to die.

I used to use holidays to party and escape the grim reality that was my life.

I was bored with work. I was doing houses up too but not making any real money for all the effort. I was single, lonely and wondering what I was doing with my life.

Towards the end of that holiday I kept thinking to myself that things had to change when I got home.

I needed a new direction.

I’ve thought that after many holidays.

Holidays are the best time for a good reflection on your life. Even if you are happy it’s an opportunity to evaluate and draw up new and exciting plans.

I love getting away. I love travelling. I love different cultures and learning about the world. I want to see all of it.

I love the idea of being able to work from anywhere in the world. Hopefully one day I’ll be good enough at writing to do that.

There have been many really high points in my life, but even more really low points. I lose count of how many times I’ve felt I needed to drastically change my life and each time I try and change it I learn more about the best way to do it.

At the moment I am happy, and I feel very lucky.

But I need to improve. I want freedom and I want to wander. I want to get to a position where I do something I love every day, all day.

As YouTube mega star Casey Neistat says: “What is the ultimate quantification of success? For me, it’s not how much time you spend doing what you love. It’s how little time you spend doing what you hate.”

Indeed.

I feel like I have improved more in the last 3 months than the last 5 years combined. I need to keep going and to do that I need to be all these things every day…

  1. Healthy

I’d love to have a 6 pack and to be able to run marathons, but I just don’t care enough to be able to do it.

I try and eat healthily, have small portions and drink a lot of water. I want to train 2-3 times a week and do a bit of exercise every day.

Enough to keep my body and my mind alert so I can be more productive.

Whatever it is you want to do with your life, you can’t do it from a hospital bed.

  1. Creative

I write every day. Maybe a post, maybe a list of ideas for posts. Maybe some ideas for a client’s business. Sometimes a list of businesses I could start. I want my creative juices to flow. I’m scared that if I have a day off I will never be able to write or create anything ever again.

Just like your body, your mind needs regular exercise to get stronger.

  1. Emotionally Intelligent

I am terrible at this.

Sometimes I have no patience. I get anxious and nervous, and therefore angry. I take this out on those closest to me and then immediately apologise. I am an idiot.

So I have to try hardest at doing this.

I want to be a better husband and step-father. I want to be a better leader when I need to be at work and in life.

To help me do this, I try and be grateful every day for 3 different things…

One thing needs to be obvious, like the fresh air I am breathing.

Secondly, something that is hard to be grateful for – like needing a new car windscreen.

I can be grateful for this as I can find out more about how insurance works. I help my clients sell to insurance companies. I can pass on new tips and advice that I have learned from this experience.

There is opportunity in everything.

Thirdly I want to be grateful for a random thing that has happened that day.

As Tony Robbins, the most famous performance coach in the world, has said, “Life is always happening for us, not to us. It’s our job to find out where the benefit is. If we do, life is magnificent.”

  1. Focused

Every week I write a list of what I need to do that week. Then every night I break this down in to jobs to be done the next day. If I look any further ahead or bigger than that my brain gets overloaded. I don’t know where to start, so I procrastinate on everything.

I need small manageable steps. In addition to the things in this list, I like to keep daily tasks to no more than 1-3 of the most important things I need to do…

‘If I achieve just this one thing today would it be a good day?’

All the other stuff you can do another day. It can go on tomorrow’s list.

  1. Learning

As I’ve said in previous posts, I read every day. Sometimes lots, sometimes little. Here are a few books I am reading at the moment:

Tim Ferriss – Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers

Dale Carnegie – How to Win Friends and Influence People (again!)

Dr Carol S. Dweck – Mindset – Updated Edition: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential

Viktor Frankel – Man’s Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust

James Allen – As a Man Thinketh

You can’t write unless you have read, a lot. You learn new skills, you learn about people, you learn about the world, you learn unexpected things.

Thanks to the internet and all the genius content marketers out there (Neil Patel being a great example) there are a lot of other tools that you can use to learn too, for FREE.

This week I watched Neil’s free webinar on how to grow traffic to your site and I was amazed at some of his techniques. Some I will be using on the blog, but more importantly this is the future of marketing and attracting new customers.

These lessons will be applicable in every job I have or any company that I start in the future.

Following the above advice is the only thing that can prevent me going backwards in life. If I can keep doing these 5 things hopefully I will realise my dreams.

It doesn’t take long to change your life. Since Christmas I feel like a new person. By Easter maybe my life will have changed again. By this time next year, who knows…?

-Matthew Brown

Have you ever felt like you wanted to re-invent yourself? What tactics do you have to do so? Let me know in the comments.

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